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January 21, 2008
Do you need Sex to be Sexy?
As I sat there watching the eighth, ok maybe it was the tenth, episode of America's Next Top Model Saturday night it occurred to me... do you need to be having sex to be or feel sexy? Tyra Banks was judging all the girls and criticizing them for not being sexy enough in their photos or not being able to portray lust when it comes out that some of the girls have never even had a boyfriend! My immediate thought was well of course they can't show that expression they have never truly experienced it and even though they may try to imitate what they have seen via other mediums they can't possibly exude sex if they have never had it.
As I further pondered this issue it made me question.. What about the rest of us that have had sex? Do we look and convey more sex appeal when we are currently having sex? And how that can become one of those yet again vicious, or maybe not so vicious if you are having it, cycles we get into in life. So if you aren't currently in a sexual relationship you don't feel sexy and therefore don't portray it or attract it, leading to even less sex. And, if so, how do you break out of the pattern.
Well the next morning in my kitchen I found the answer. You DANCE! Dancing has got to be the next best thing to sex! Come on guys you too can do it and probably do secretly like to dance...admit it, or if nothing else like to watch women do it. There I was in my kitchen doing my dishes and dancing around like a crazy woman to Britney Spears’ new Blackout (appropriately named yet good nonetheless) album. And despite the baggy sweatpants (that's a whole other song) and crazy bed head hair was feeling quite sexy.
So get out there, or stay in, but whatever the case... just dance. Dance and be sexy even if you are not having sex currently. Even if you do it when no one is looking, like in the shower, the tanning booth (just don't knock it over), or the mirror in your bedroom, I guarantee it will snap you out of that funk. Like they say, fake it until you make it. And for those of you already dancing, I know what you've been up to!
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Girl...I couldn't agree more...And quite honestly...sometimes the outcome is ALOT better than sex...I mean you are moving your body any way you feel to the music,gyrating to a pulse pounding rhythm, losing a TON of calories, and looking quite fab in the process.
Other scenario: It's probably less exciting than the new Brit Spears song, your face is contorted in a red sweaty manner, the song in your head could be "Another one bites the dust".. and when you go into the bathroom with matted hair, and want to chew your arm off in the morning rather than wake the person...consider the alternative....DANCE DANCE DANCE!
January 22, 2008 08:19 AM
Dancing=sex. Really, i couldnt agree more. When you're grinding up on that tanning bed, nothing feels better. Especially when i hit that special area!!! Anyway ladies, I hope you continue to find more and more confidence with your new and improved... Moves. Tata!
Posted by brigitaJanuary 22, 2008 02:10 PM
will there actually be a new post this week?
Posted by waiting for new contentJanuary 28, 2008 04:52 PM
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How'd you know I've been dancing in the tanning booth? LOL Seriously though, I'm the worlds sexiest stripper in that tanning booth (even though I'm already naked) so I concur, dancing definitely makes you feel sexy. On the other topic, I think you exude more sexiness when you are having sex as evidenced by the inevitable fact that you always attract more men when you are in a relationship than when you aren't. I've heard many people complain that people come out of the woodwork wanting to date them when they are finally settled into a good relationship. I think you exude more confidence when you are in a relationship, having sex, and are confident and happy. Stinks doesn't it?
Looking forward to future HOT topics. Great Start Isabella!
Posted by AndreaJanuary 22, 2008 08:08 AM