As I sat there watching the eighth, ok maybe it was the tenth, episode of America's Next Top Model Saturday night it occurred to me... do you need to be having sex to be or feel sexy? Tyra Banks was judging all the girls and criticizing them for not being sexy enough in their photos or not being able to portray lust when it comes out that some of the girls have never even had a boyfriend! My immediate thought was well of course they can't show that expression they have never truly experienced it and even though they may try to imitate what they have seen via other mediums they can't possibly exude sex if they have never had it.

As I further pondered this issue it made me question.. What about the rest of us that have had sex? Do we look and convey more sex appeal when we are currently having sex? And how that can become one of those yet again vicious, or maybe not so vicious if you are having it, cycles we get into in life. So if you aren't currently in a sexual relationship you don't feel sexy and therefore don't portray it or attract it, leading to even less sex. And, if so, how do you break out of the pattern.

Well the next morning in my kitchen I found the answer. You DANCE! Dancing has got to be the next best thing to sex! Come on guys you too can do it and probably do secretly like to dance...admit it, or if nothing else like to watch women do it. There I was in my kitchen doing my dishes and dancing around like a crazy woman to Britney Spears’ new Blackout (appropriately named yet good nonetheless) album. And despite the baggy sweatpants (that's a whole other song) and crazy bed head hair was feeling quite sexy.

So get out there, or stay in, but whatever the case... just dance. Dance and be sexy even if you are not having sex currently. Even if you do it when no one is looking, like in the shower, the tanning booth (just don't knock it over), or the mirror in your bedroom, I guarantee it will snap you out of that funk. Like they say, fake it until you make it. And for those of you already dancing, I know what you've been up to!