You've lost that loving feeling

So don't, don't, don't ...let it slip away... a love you won't find every day.

Seems everything we do these days requires multiple sources of stimulation. I am guilty of it myself. I can rarely just sit and watch something on TV that would be interesting enough to keep my full attention so I am usually checking email, surfing the web, paying bills, and simultaneously watching all at once. I go to the gym and I am listening to my iPod but also need to watch something on TV, even though I have no idea what they are saying, AND I need to be strategically located on my cardio machine to also be watching what the people (ok, cute guys..lol) are doing on the weight training floor because just the iPod, and the TV are not entertaining enough to keep me content for 45 minutes! You all know what I mean and have your own wicked ways that you are on stimulation overload; should I say Facebook and Myspace addicts?

But when did this need to be over stimulated take over in the bedroom? When did we let love slip away and be replaced with lust? Last night there was a couple, oh and not even a real couple two people who had just met but were pretending to be a couple, going around in the bar I was in, asking other couples if they wanted to "swing." And surprisingly, or maybe not surprisingly to some of you, there were lots of people that seemed interested in doing so! Have we become a society that is so used to doing multiple things at once that this now also translated to other people? Have we really lost that loving feeling so much that sharing your lover for the night makes your relationship better?

And ladies, don't get all crazy and think it was just the guys that found this appealing. It was in fact, more interesting to most of the women more so than the men! A few of the men were actually pretty freaked out by the mention of it. Now, I know finding men that think foreplay is more than just saying "you're hot" is hard to come by these days but girls if he is that uninteresting in the bedroom don't just share him to make it better, get rid of him.

I may be in the wrong for juggling my makeup and driving my car at the same time but I can't say I would like to have my bedroom look like a smaller version of a pickup basketball game. This girl still would rather play one on one! I say stick with love and lust will come! If the lust is gone you have stopped actively being in love with the other person. Work on that, not on adding someone else.