After a break up the single most important thing are your friends. They rally around like cheerleaders at a pep rally. You take their advice as gospel. Clinging to every word and hope that they have. Making a mental list in your head so when they leave and you’re alone, you still have their words getting you through.
Your friends will pick you up, dust you off and take you out despite the fact you would rather curl up and die. They are relentless in their pursuit to cheer you up and getting you back to somewhere near normal. They are invaluable at a time like this.
Most of us have heard the usual tag lines that people say after a break-up. "There are other fish in the sea." “Take this time to find yourself." "It wasn't meant to be." "You don’t need him." These are all things that we actually really know. Yet somehow takes on different meaning when said by a friend. I mean we all know that we will eventually bounce back and go fishing for those other fish. In my case I’ve found myself, many times and in fact know what I want. We all know that if it was meant to be it'd be and we are truly better off without the person who broke our hearts. And yes in fact you will find someone who deserves you. The list goes on and on. Usually what is said is directly related to if the person is in a relationship or single themselves.
Other singles sort have a look of panic and tend to be more get up and go. Brush it off in a, you don’t need him type manner. They now realize that another line has been dropped into the fishing pond and are now after the same fish as you. Friends that are in relationships tend to look at the picture a bit bigger.
My favorite comment was said by a friend who is a mere 2 weeks older than I am, yet unlike myself in a very committed relationship. At the news of my break-up she had told me that "It's not too late." It had never dawned at me at the ripe old age of 28 that my time might be up for finding my better half. That in fact it may be too late for me. My parents had been high school sweethearts and even my younger sister and high school best friend was in a relationship. Had I indeed hit my peak? And was all I had looking forward to was awkward first dates and a life of what ifs?
Ahh, Nope. I feel that at 28 (4 days and I'll be 29) that my peak has yet to begin. My past relationships although failed as relationships, have succeeded in doing a couple of things. One help me figure out what I do want and don’t want in a relationship and two realize that its in fact NOT TOO LATE!!!